Dear J.T. & Dale: I quit my job in 2003 to stay home with our first child. Our son recently started school, and since then I have been looking for a job. I thought that it would be easy considering my experience in operations and project management, but it has been anything but. The problem is that we recently moved cross-country for my wife’s career. I do not have a network of contacts here, and I am not a social butterfly. — Cal

J.T.: Start by looking at all the ways in which you’ve gained new friendships since moving. Have you been involved in your community activities related to raising your son? In a religious organization? Reach out through these networks, and ask for advice and guidance on the best way to look for work in this area. The idea is to play the “six degrees of separation” game.

Dale: The history of “six degrees of separation” is interesting but lengthy — Wikipedia has thoughtful piece on the subject. But back to Cal, who’s no social butterfly. Here’s one trick for shy people: Offer help rather than asking for it. Network by joining professional organizations relevant to your field and volunteering for committees and other endeavors where you work with others.

J.T.: Meanwhile, identify the notable firms in your area that employ project managers and call them directly. These are your peers, so introduce yourself as a newcomer who could use some guidance on the best way to find a job in the area. While not everyone will take the time to chat with you, if you can meet with even one, then you’ll be able to ask key questions and have another start at constructing a new network.